Joseph Mays was the first child of George Mays & Phillis Wickenden christened April 23rd, 1843 at East Grinstead, Sussex.
In 1851 Joseph, his 2 younger sisters & his parents were living at Gate Lodge, Shovelstrode, East Grinstead.
By 1861 Joseph’s father had died & Joseph was living with his widowed mother at The Barracks, East Grinstead. His 2 sisters were still at home & Joseph was working as an agricultural labourer.
Joseph married Amelia Stone in July-September 1864 at East Grinstead. Joseph’s mother also remarried during the same period at East Grinstead, her second husband being Samuel Dennis, a bricklayer. Amelia was christened February 8th, 1846 at East Grinstead, the daughter of Mary Ann Pentecost & George Stone, an agricultural labourer. At the time of the 1861 census Amelia herself had been being working as an agricultural labourer at the age of 15.
In 1871 Joseph & Amelia were living at 3 Bridges, Worth, Sussex & Joseph had now become a coachman & Amelia was described as a domestic servant. They had 4 sons at home – George (5), William (4), Henry (2) & John (1). Amelia’s sister, Mary Stone (11), was living with them & described as a domestic servant.
By 1881 the family had moved to Alfred Mews, Kensington, London & Joseph still worked as a coachman. They now had 5 sons at home – William, an errand boy, John, Thomas (6), Edward (2) & Joseph (9 months). They also had a daughter Mary aged 4 & a nurse child Cecil Langdale Mays, aged 2 months.
Son William a coachman, married Amelia Barrell on January 26th, 1889 at All Saints, Notting Hill, Kensington. Amelia, the daughter of Charles Barrell a cab proprieter, was only 19 at the time of the wedding.
In 1891 Joseph & Amelia were living at Cromwell Rd, Kensington & Joseph was now described as a carman. Children still at home were Mary, Alfred (Edward), Joseph, Phillis (8), Charles (6) & Richard (4).
Son William & his wife Amelia were living at Richmond Rd, Hammersmith at the time of the 1891 census & William was a coachman like his father. Son Henry (known as Harry) had recently married and he & his wife Eliza were living at Clarendon Rd, Hove, Sussex where Harry was also a coachman.
The family had moved again by 1901 & were now living at 11 Brook Mews, Paddington, London. Joseph was now described as a coachman, not domestic. There were only 2 children left at home – Phillis & Richard. Son William continued to be a coachman & he & wife Amelia were living at Kensington Park Mews, Kensington. Son Harry, now a stableman, & wife Eliza were living Acklam Rd, Kensington & they had 2 children – Henry Joseph G (9) & Minnie Amelia (7). Son Joseph was working as a coachman & living at 17 Fairhazel Gardens, Hampstead (he was apparently living in the stables outside).
In 1911 Joseph & Amelia were living at 11 Frederick Mews, Marble Arch & at the age of 68 Joseph was still a coachman. It was noted on the census that Joseph & Amelia had had 11 children, only 9 of whom were still alive. Their son William (44) was living with them & appeared to be unemployed. His wife Amelia was living with Ethel & Edmund Westhorp at the time of the census at Hampfields, Stanley Ave, Wembley, Middlesex & was described as a ‘useful help (domestic)’. It was noted that William & Amelia had no children.
Son Edward Alfred had married Florence Ellen Phillips in 1905 & at the time of the 1911 census they were living at 20 Egerton Mews, South Kensington where Edward was a domestic coachman.
Son Richard married Rose Dyall on August 1st, 1908 at the Parish Church, Southall, London & in 1911 they were living at 106 Godolphin Rd, Shepherds Bush, Fulham & Richard was a motor coach builder (journeyman). Richard enlisted in 1915 when he gave his address as 4 Frederick Mews, Marble Arch. He served in the Royal Army Service Corps during WW1 during which time he was posted with the Expeditionary Force to France.
Son Charles also worked as a coachman & in 1911 he was living at 20 Coleherne Mews, Earls Court, Kensington.
Joseph died died on November 4th, 1919, at 13 Hampden Gurney St, Hyde Park, Middlesex. Probate was granted on December 29th, 1919 to son John Mays, a motor driver. His effects were £251.7s.
There is a death for Amelia Mays, aged 83, in Jan-March 1929 registered at Brentford, Middlesex.
The children of Joseph Mays & Amelia Stone were:
m.7.1.1 George Mays christened July 30th, 1865 at East Grinstead, Sussex; died Jan-March 1947 at Kensington
m.7.1.2 William Mays christened January 27th, 1867 at East Grinstead, Sussex
m.7.1.3 Henry Mays born Jan-March 1869 at Crawley, Sussex
m.7.1.4 John Mays christened April 2nd, 1871 at Worth, Sussex; died April-June 1973 at Enfield, Middlesex
m.7.1.5 Thomas Mays born July-September 1873 at Brighton, Sussex
m.7.1.6 Mary Mays born c1877 at Kensington, Middlesex
m.7.1.7 Edward Alfred Mays born July-September 1878 at Kensington, Middlesex
m.7.1.8 Joseph Mays born July-September 1880 at Kensington, Middlesex; died July-September 1908 at Paddington
m.7.1.9 Phillis Emily Mays born at 6 Kensington Park Mews & christened September 17th, 1882 at St John the Evangelist, Kensington, Middlesex
m.7.1.10 Charles Mays born April-June 1885 at Kensington, Middlesex
m.7.1.11 Richard Mays born April-June 1887 at Kensington, Middlesex